Betrayal of Trust

Have you ever trust someone only to find that they betrayed you and also back-stab you. I read an article at this blog by sharlydia and that triggered something in me. I treat my friends well and when I trust them, I trust them. Even though I am not the kind who confide everyone openly about my matters, in fact I am a rather private person in that way on the contrary of me being a rather LOUD person (or so I was told) Anyhow, I have a good friend whom I was working with, we became fast friends and he was a rather crude person. A lot of people does not like him due to his quick mouth and his crude/rudeness. I use to make excuses for him all the time, and I always say this to other people who wonders why I hang out with him. I tell them if you look beyond the surface of crudeness he is actually quite a nice person and a good friend. Some people still do not understand why I bother defending him. I introduce him to my group of friends and today he hangs out with them. I have been known to have a big heart to forgive people

I have been recently having some rough times with my no longer current relationship. I found out from another close friend whom we all work together. Oh dear, this is going to be a little confusing. I have 2 good friends working together with me. Mr. Betrayal A and Friend B had a fight which almost resulted in physical fighting so he was complaining to me and I defended Mr. Betrayal A, which then Friend B told me off by saying WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU? Here you are defending him and there he is stabbing you on the back. He didn’t dare to tell me initially so that I won’t get upset but then in the end he cpuldn’t hold it in and told me off. I was bery SURPRISED, especially since he’s like I am there for you when you are having difficulties and behind me he’s bitching bout me!

Well, lesson here is… you can’t really trust someone too much? Or is it me who is NOT SO WISE in judging people?

So to my other GOOD/BEST friends, who are reading this, please bear with me when I don’t share my matters with you, but I always will eventually tell. And thank you for never pressuring me to share until I am ready to…

Bestest Friends?

We all have in our lives at least one or more good friends and perhaps one or more best friends? I have been shot down by my friends about this. I have more than one BEST friend. Is that a crime?

Ok here is how it goes… over the years as you are growing up and going through different phases in life, high school, college, universities, first job, 2nd job etc… you meet new people along the way whom you befriends with that you get along really well. It could be due to the same work you guys do, or maybe you went through something which brought you guys closer.

So I have a best friend from high school, then 2 girls whom I was really close to in college. Then I went to Melbourne for 4 years and became really close to this other girl. When I came back I met back another old school friend, whom then I became really close with. Some of these people I do not hang out with on a regular basis but I can tell you at anytime if we call each other out for coffee and we can sit down and have a really good chat. I also have BEST FRIENDS whom I hang out with every week, go partying with... Then when you are at work, you will find yourself getting close to different group of people, and I being the bestfriend slut have a OFFICE bestfriend.

So I have like a list of BEST FRIENDs whom people tells me that it’s “BEST” so there can only be one. But I got a office bestfriend, Uni bestfriend, college bestfriend etc... Can someone please share my sentiments and I have further explain to my friends? :)

Moving On, Starting over

Have anyone of you ever shared your life with someone for many many years only to find out that perhaps he/she is not the right person for you. However, by the very many years, in different situation you have obligations. Perhaps some of you are married, some with kids, some dated for a long time, some engaged perhaps, but whatever the reason you have been together for so long, how do you just walk away over night and expect everything to be the same?

I had so many friends with different incidents. There was a couple who was dating for 7 years, got married and got divorce 2 years later. Another couple who dated for 9 years then broke-off (we all thought they were going to get married!). Another couple I know of, who has been dating for years, they trust each other, the girl swears by the bf never cheating on her, only to catch him red-handed one day. One last one is my friend who dated the same girl for 13 years, married and have a kid and yet they got divorced. So how do you this is the RIGHT PERSON for you and whatever you have is FOREVER?

So back to my post title, how does one moves on and start all over again. What happens to the routines that you've been doing for years? What happens to each other families and their routines? What about the pillow you are so used to sleep on in your other half's house? What about the place that you always go to eat together at? Do you not go there anymore? What about the things you shared and bought together? What about what abouts? Back to my posting a while ago, where is my book of answers?

So moving on and starting over, you need to pick up the pieces, put it back together and learn to take your baby steps all over again down the new path. So if when you stumble and fall, you have pick yourself up again.

So right now I am picking up all the pieces and putting them together again and then start all over again right at the starting line.